Breaking the Silence: Understanding Male Emotional Wellbeing

As the Coordinator of the International Women’s Emporium, it’s my pleasure to delve into a topic often overlooked: men’s emotional well-being. Today, we’re privileged to have Author Prachi Sachdev, whose book “Dear Son, You Can’t Stay Little Always” sheds light on this important subject. In a world where societal norms often discourage men from expressing their emotions, Prachi’s work offers a refreshing perspective and guidance on navigating these challenges.

Author Prachi Sachdev is a renowned author and advocate for mental health awareness. Her passion for understanding and supporting emotional well-being, especially in males, has led her to write extensively on the subject. With a keen insight into the intricacies of human emotions, Prachi’s work resonates deeply with readers across diverse backgrounds.

 

1. What inspired you to write “Dear Son, you can’t be little always”?

Ans:Jokes circulated in boy’s and men’s groups are usually targeted at girls and women. It feels like a generational curse as it has not only increased the gap between the two genders but also strengthened patriarchy by creating tough and rigid men. However, I strongly believe, that every individual is different. They are the outcome of the environment they are raised in. Reflecting on societal norms and upbringing, I realized the need for change. I didn’t want to raise my son in a world where toxic masculinity prevailed, stifling emotions and promoting disrespect. Thus, the idea for this book was born, dedicated to nurturing a culture of empathy and understanding in young men.

2. Can you briefly outline the main themes or messages addressed in your book?
Ans:In my book for teen boys, I cover a range of important themes aimed at breaking gender stereotypes and perceptions around masculinity. The book also acts as a mini guide for boys to navigate through the crucial years of their lives to understand themselves better, break toxic patterns, and create healthy relationships. These include:

Self-love: Emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and self-care.
Communication: Encouraging open and honest communication to build strong connections.
Belief in yourself: Empowering readers to have confidence in their abilities and potential.
Honesty: Stressing the value of integrity and honesty in all interactions.
Dating and relationships: Guiding on navigating romantic relationships with respect and empathy.
Social media: Addressing the impact of social media on self-esteem and relationships.
Treating women with respect: Promoting equality and respect in all interactions with women.
Handling rejection and failures: Offering strategies for resilience and growth in the face of setbacks.
Peer pressure: Providing tools to resist negative influences and make independent choices.
Domestic abuse: Shedding light on the various forms of abuse and promoting healthy relationships.

 

3. How do societal expectations influence male emotional well-being, according to your research and observations?

Ans: During my research for the book, I had conversations with boys and men ranging from 12 to 60 years old. One common theme that emerged from these discussions was the difficulty they faced in communication, particularly with their loved ones. This struggle with communication often led to problems in their married or live-in relationships. For some of these boys, expression of love meant scoldings, punishments, and abandonment. Being treated with compassion and self-love was a foreign concept to them. As children, some also experienced abuse but lacked the support or courage to speak out.

Another significant finding was society’s expectation for boys to embody toughness and machismo. This societal perception of boys from a young age to conform to traditional gender roles often deeply affected their emotional health and well-being. Even though they grew up in different settings, whether it was in the city or the countryside, they were all expected to conform to a stereotype of being rough and muscular. This pressure came from various sources, including family, friends, and society as a whole. Despite their backgrounds, this expectation remained a constant factor in shaping their identities.

4. In your opinion, what are some common misconceptions about masculinity and emotions that your book aims to challenge?
Ans: In my book for teen boys, I aim to challenge several common misconceptions about masculinity and emotions that often go unaddressed. One prevalent misconception is that expressing emotions is a sign of weakness. Through discussions on self-love and communication, I emphasize that vulnerability is a strength, not a flaw. Additionally, I tackle the misconception that treating women with respect is optional, highlighting the importance of empathy and equality in all relationships.

By addressing peer pressure, I aim to equip boys with the tools to make informed decisions and resist negative influences. Furthermore, by shedding light on the various forms of domestic abuse, including emotional and mental, I seek to empower boys to recognize unhealthy dynamics and advocate for themselves and others in toxic environments. Ultimately, my goal is to challenge outdated stereotypes and promote a more inclusive and emotionally intelligent understanding of masculinity. Through these discussions, I hope to foster a generation of young men who prioritize empathy, respect, and emotional well-being in all aspects of their lives.

5. What advice would you offer to men struggling to navigate their emotions in a society that often discourages vulnerability?

Ans:My advice to men navigating emotions in a society that discourages vulnerability is to remember that expressing feelings is a sign of strength, not weakness. Seek out supportive friends or professional help if needed. Practice self-compassion and allow yourself to feel without judgment. Engage in activities that promote emotional well-being, such as journaling, meditation, or therapy. Remember that you are not alone, and it’s okay to ask for help when needed. Embracing vulnerability can lead to deeper connections and personal growth.

6. Could you share a particular anecdote or insight from your book that you believe encapsulates the essence of your message?
Ans:One powerful insight shared in my book is that the notion of being “macho” is nothing more than a suffocating illusion.

Sharing a powerful paragraph from my book: “The younger generation needs to understand that ‘machoism’ is a joke, a trap, a lie, and not the ultimate path to follow to become an authentic person and best version of yourself. The concept of toxic masculinity is something that should be taught in schools during formative years. It’s a brick wall that blocks the road to becoming a complete person. The false image of boys to turn them into men who do not show emotions is damaging to their future selves. Learn to express and share your feelings. Do not expect your parents, your friends, or partners to understand your silence. The silence between people only affects the relationship negatively. When you learn to keep your feelings within, you start an unhealthy cycle of toxicity that becomes difficult to break with time. It is always better to heal now than wanting later to fix the adult you.

7. Lastly, where can our audience find your book for those interested in delving deeper into this important topic?
Ans: The book is available as a paperback and e-book on Amazon. Link to my book: https://tinyurl.com/5n978t5j